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Just yesterday I was talking with a potential client and one of her reasons for considering professional coaching is because she struggles with decision making. She’s looking for defined processes that will help her respond when she makes decisions rather than react in the moment or not do anything. What’s her ultimate goal? To find a way to make decisions that is authentic AND that eliminates stress!
Could you us this process too? How do you make sound decisions?
Straight out of the Proverbs here are three key principles for sound decision making:
- Get the facts before answering.
- Be open to new ideas.
- Make sure you hear all sides of the story before judging.
All three of these key principles center on seeking additional information. This is difficult work but it is essential. It requires you to “pause on purpose” in order to gather the additional insight necessary to be proactive and respond instead of reacting.
John Maxwell, leadership expert and author says, “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” Practicing the “pause on purpose” and using these principles for decision making will enhance your ability to be an effective leader of your life.
So what do you need to do differently so you can “pause on purpose”? What needs to happen so you use three key principles in your decision making process?
What do you think? Post your comments at the blog after you’ve had a chance to practice these skills. Together I can support you in your struggles and join you to celebrate your wins.
“Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious, than to be able to decide.”
“Possessing information about yourself is not the same as truly knowing yourself. Self transformation is always preceded by self-acceptance. And the self you must accept is the self you actually and truly are–before you start your self-improvement projects.”
David G. Benner, Author of The Gift of Being Yourself
Your success in the world is contingent upon knowing who you are. It is critical to achieving your goals and having the impact you desire. Building your self-esteem by discovering and knowing yourself allows you to be more confident, open and comfortable with who you really are and this self-knowing leads to self-acceptance allowing you to give more to your families and the world.
So how do you come to know all of who you are?
I recently found an assessment tool that you can use to gain feedback from others about your personal brand identity. It’s a powerful tool called the 360 Degree Reach which you can use free for 15-days.
I imagine you’re wondering if you really want to have others feedback about you. Yes, it’s extremely vulnerable to ask others for input. If you come from the perspective that not everyone is out to get you and in fact they may have good feedback to give you, it can help give you the courage to take this next step.
Someone once said, “Success is when those who know you the best are those who love you the most.”
Years ago a self-assessment toll was developed by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingram called the Johari Window. The Johari Window helps you realize where you are in your ability to know who you are and for others to know who you are. Real transparency in communication takes place when those we associate with us know who we are after we discover who we really are. See if you can identify what category you might fall among these four:
Transparent Life: The transparent life is the life we should desire. I know who I am and others know me. There is nothing hidden. I have come to know who I am as an individual and basically people get what they see in me.
Bull-In-The-China Shop: This person is blinded to the things that others recognize about him. The solution to becoming a transparent person is to get feedback from those around us about our blind spots in our personality. We must ask for the feedback and be willing to respond to their input.
Aloof/Hidden Secrets: This person lives in a secret world. They don’t allow others to know about themselves. They know themselves but are fearful of letting others know. Those around them do not know them either. What do others really about you? Have you allowed yourself to get close enough to others to share who you really are inside?
Hidden Potential: This is a combination of Bull-In-A-China Shop and Aloof/Hidden Secrets. It is the saddest of all conditions. These people don’t know themselves and others don’t know them either. This means both parties have to invest the energy to communicate and get feedback from one another.
How about you? Why not take a step to find out who you really are in the lives of others. It could change your life.
You’ve probably heard the acronym for T.E.A.M. which tands for “Together, Everyone Achieves More”. I know that without my “team” or “tribe”, I would not be where I am today on both a personal or professional level.
So who is your Team or Tribe? What men and women do you turn to for inspiration, encouragement and calling forth to make your dreams real as you leave your lasting impact in the world?
My new business platform continues to evolve. As I drill it down to get crystal clear on the deep “why”, it’s about collaborative leadership. In fact, this is why I am partnering with a fellow “tribe” member to create The Leadership Collaborative which will launch soon.
What is collaborative leadership you might ask? Here’s how I define it:
Collaborative Leadership—Working together with other like-minded leaders to create inspired lives and purposeful businesses for the greater purpose of positive and lasting change in the world.
As I’m doing my research around my new business platform, I notice there’s a continued shift happening in the entrepreneurial world. Business leaders are evolving to become “collaborative” rather than “competitive” and joining forces for noble causes to make a greater collective contribution. This energizes me because I want to be inspired by other people’s brilliance and have the ability to reach a larger audience with my message for the sake of the greater good that can happen.
In fact, the value of collaborative leadership is significant. Here are just some of the ways you can benefit when you find your tribe and conduct your work through a collaborative leadership model:
- You gain clarity about who you are and what you stand for.
- You have more fun and energy toward life and work.
- You experience the magic of referrals of work to you and others because of connecting people to great resources.
- You leverage the wisdom of the group to accomplish more and generate improved results for greater impact.
Last week, I held a virtual book talk and signing for my co-authored book “Direct Selling Power: Expert Advice to Accelerate your Direct Sales Business.” I shared insight on the topic “The 2% Shift: Becoming a Cutting Edge Leader in your Direct Sales or MLM Business.” As I prepared for the talk, I decided to leverage my collaborative leadership network and asked for support to reach more entrepreneurs with my message. And boy did they come through!
In addition to inspiring you to find your own collaborative leadership team, I want to personally thank my fellow friends and collaborative leadership tribe for their willingness to share my work with others!
I invite you to visit their websites to learn more about their work because they are top notch amazing leaders in their respective industries. So thank you to….
- Steve Taubman – www.stevetaubman.com
- Caterina Rando – www.thrivebooks.com
- Jennifer Fong – www.jennfongspeaks.com
- Krista Dunk – www.kbwomen.com
- Becky Spieth – www.beckyspieth.com
- Jennifer Peppers – www.vergecoaching.com
What’s been your experience with collaborative leadership? What will you do next to develop your own collaborative leadership tribe? Post your comments at the blog at www.shannonbruce.com. Also stay tuned for more as my new business platform launches; there will be many resources that will support you in this endeavor.
Remember, together everyone achieves more!
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