The Spiral Staircase to your Authentic Success
On June 25th, 2010, by
I am currently in a pretty awesome (and scary!) transition place in my life and work. I’ve been here before so I’m keenly aware of a “pattern” that surfaces when I’m called forth to a new level. I notice that I become very “controlling” toward my outer world in an attempt to bring peace to the chaos I feel inside. Can you relate?
I’ve also recognized that the one person in my life who takes the brunt of my “controlling” nature is my daughter as you’ll see by my post below. When I realized this (again), I decided to share the article I wrote 3 years ago on the topic to let you know that “moving forward” toward your inspired life also results in some “moving back” in order to overcome the obstacles that are in your way. It may seem like you’re “stopped” but as the spiral staircase shows, this is actually a coming back around the loop at a slightly higher place all for the purpose of moving upward to your authentic success.
I also want to make the point that when you are going through this “letting go of the old” to “make room for the new” you must practice extreme self-care. For me in this moment, it means sharing something I’ve already written so I don’t have to muster the attention and strength to be creative with a new blog post this week. (by the way, I’m redirecting you to the original article to keep this post length manageable).
As you read the article below, I invite you to ponder the following questions:
- In what area are you being called forth to a new way of life that is more genuine and authentic?
- What support do you need to overcome the patterns, beliefs and behaviors that are holding you back in your life and your business?
- What’s your next step?
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The Heart of a Mother – The Power of “Yes”
Have you ever noticed that one of the first words out of a toddler’s mouth is “no”?
Hmmm. I wonder why that is?
I have been reflecting on my role as a mother and I realize that I frequently use the word “no” with my nearly 7-year old daughter, Taylor. With our recent struggles, I am aware that my overuse of this word has been a hindrance in our ability to reconnect. It’s draining me and separating us further. This is not who I want to be as her mother, nor is it the relationship I want to have with her.
I recently decided to try a different approach. I started to say “yes” more often.
I am in awe of what I have noticed…Read on here.
Photo from Photoxpress © Lars Christensen
2 Comments
June 25th, 2010 at 7:28 pm
Interesting that you blog about this. I have been struggling with a similar situation. Instead of the word NO I have been using the word GO. Every time I speak to either of my children I tell them to GO or use the word go. God has brought this to my attention and shown me how damaging this can be to my little ones. Constantly telling them to GO sends them the message that I don’t want them around. I think I started doing this to try and quiet myself inside. I long for quiet space and so I reflect that onto them. I have replaced telling them go with saying come here and then taking them in my arms, hugging them and then telling them what I would like from them. Their reaction has been amazing; at first they were confused by it and thought they were in BIG trouble. But after a few times, they ate up the hugs and loves from me and responded much better to me asking them for quiet space. This is a huge struggle for me, I continually have to remind myself to do this and I continually mess up and tell them to go. Thank God for his grace. It’s hard for me to hug and love them; I think it is because I have been hurt so much in the past three years. I believe that I built a wall to protect myself. It’s me and God and no one else. Fortunately God loves me and my children enough to show me that I had pushed my children away and brought me to confession and then told me how to correct the behavior. I hate admitting that I act this way. But I am only human and maybe this posting will help another mother out their stop telling her children to go and start asking them to come here so she can give them a BIG hug and then ask them to do whatever it is that she needs. My children respond so much better when I approach them this way. The alternative is raised voices and angry hearts. I don’t want that for my children. They are precious little gifts and I want to treat them accordingly. I have to remember that they are just on loan to me. They are God’s babies and I need to love them unconditionally.
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Shannon Reply:
June 26th, 2010 at 9:05 am
Thank you for sharing your wisdom Carissa. I acknowledge your courage, your faith and your willingness to persevere as you are molded and refined.
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