Will the Real Me Please Standup?

A direct sales client of mine started coaching because she was exhausted, tired of being different depending on who she was with. She realized she had various  “faces” she shared with others depending on whether she was with this friend or family member, or that co-worker or team member. Allowing her external world dictate how she engaged with others caused internal chaos and lack luster results, leading her to confusion about her “real” self, wondering “Who am I?” and “What do I want?”

I wonder if you can relate? Do you find yourself putting on different faces depending on who you are with? Are you experiencing internal chaos and achieving marginal results because of this?

These questions actually lead to the bigger question of, “Do you know who you really are?”

Let me say this next thought loud and clear. If you find yourself in this situation, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! This is a challenge for all of us because discovering the truth about who you really are is an ongoing process, and likely something that you lose sight of with the demands of your life.

And you don’t need to accept this or throw in the towel in this game of life. There is HOPE as you make the choice to discover who you really are, and begin to live from this place of authenticity.

Through the power of the coaching process, the woman I mentioned above knows her values, understands her purpose and mission and now lives from her “real” self. Her impact is significant as she experiences inner peace and wholeness. Her relationships have dramatically improved and her business is flourishing based on her definition of success.

The point here is about living with authenticity, consistently, and without apology!

What does living with authenticity look like? Here are some suggestions to consider excerpted from an article written by Barbara De Angelis, PhD in the Empowering Women Magazine:

• Behave in ways that are in harmony with your personal values
• Make choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe
• Believe you can be yourself and be loved, rather than having to act in ways you feel will be acceptable to others
• Accept and honor all parts of yourself rather than hiding or lying about them
• Communicate the truth when you need to, even though it might create conflict or tension
• Don’t settle for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships
• Ask for what you want and need from others

This month is the launch of my newly co-authored book, “Direct Selling Power” which includes the chapter on “Ignite your Passion and Live with Purpose: A Guide to a Thriving Life and Prosperous Direct Sales Business.” Whether you are a direct sales business owner, entrepreneur, stay-at-home Mom, or employee, what I’ve written will help you discover the real you. Perhaps this is a next step for you to in connecting with the “real” you.

Bottom line here, it’s time for the real you to stand up! We need what you have to offer.

So what do you say? Share your comments at the blog; let’s get real together!

Contributing Sources

Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., is one of the most influential teachers of our time in the field of relationships and personal growth. For the past 25 years she has reached tens of millions of people throughout the world with her positive messages about love, happiness and the search for meaning in our lives. She is a best-selling author, popular television personality and sought after motivational speaker.

Empowering Women magazine is a specialized and focused national publication designed to inform, motivate and inspire individuals who are interested in supplementing their income and empowering their lives. Each issue of Empowering Women spotlights a direct selling or party plan company. Readers are given an in-depth look into the featured company and how it creates opportunities for women to achieve success in life and in business. Every issue is packed with engaging articles designed to educate women on how to obtain success in their professional, financial and personal lives.